The father of a newborn tells the nurse, the baby just died. How should the nurse respond?

• A. I am sorry for your loss.
• B. There is an angel in heaven.
• C. I understand how you feel.
• D. You can have other children.

Answer: (A)

Expressing condolences directly and simply is the most appropriate first response. Saying “I’m sorry for your loss” acknowledges the newborn’s death, validates the father’s grief, and offers a compassionate human connection without imposing beliefs or trying to fix the situation. It creates space for him to grieve in his own way and at his own pace.

The other responses can feel dismissive or prescriptive. Saying there’s an angel in heaven can impose a belief that not everyone shares or wants to hear at that moment. Stating “I understand how you feel” assumes you know his exact inner experience, which can feel invalidating. Suggesting “You can have other children” shifts focus to future possibilities and can minimize what has just happened.

In practice, accompany the words with a calm, caring presence, give him a moment to speak, and offer support and privacy as needed.